You have to give yourself a break. When you’re ridiculously hard on yourself, you’re putting stress on your heart and your body. You’re wearing yourself out. You’re better than you think you are. You’re more valuable than you will ever realize. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with care.
Stay clear from negative thoughts!
I was having a dinner with colleagues from work and I happened to sit beside Mr. Director. In the next table, the Mrs. CEO sat with other high level guests.
"Why don’t you sit with them, Sir?"
And him being always to the point, he said, “Ugh, no. You must know that I am anti-social. They’re too loud.”
And me, having just read Susan Cain’s book, i noticed the introversion symptoms, I replied, “Are you an introvert?”
"Yes, I am. I hate social scenes.", he chuckled.
"Then you should read this book I’ve just finished", I continued on by describing the Quiet book.
"Oh it’s from a book. I’ve watched her TEDtalk on the topic. It was great!", he then showed me a bunch of TEDtalks that he likes on his iPhone.
After ten TEDtalks or so, I cut in, “So in the book, Susan Cain mentioned about the Myer-Briggs Type Indicator. Have you found out what your type is?”
"I think I am an INTJ."
"That makes the two of us!", excitedly I said.
So, I have guessed that he is an introvert because being socially awkward myself, I can recognize the tell-tale signs. However, one thing that baffles me is that he is definitely not quiet. At work and in meetings, he is loud and intimidating, that comes across as harsh to some people. He’s genius for sure in a sense that he is so good at explaining things in a very simplified and logical manner. He’s probably “self-monitoring” and being a situational extrovert. Or he’s just too frustrated that people cannot grasp ideas as quickly as he can.
How do you get along with fellow INTJ who happens to be your superordinate?
(read more) Andionne Celeste
Reading this makes me sad because it’s a very good description of an introvert being in love with an extrovert. Things like this bring up so much anxiety and confusion when they’re not understood. I’m glad I know this now.
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What, JAYUS? Soooo last year… :)
I am introverted, I know, but sometimes I need to be with people when the noises in my head are getting too loud for my own comfort. Sometimes I think too much, care too deeply, that I need to escape to the outer world to drown all the thoughts inside.
Introverts…described conversing with extroverts as a “breath of fresh air.”
(Susan Cain in Quiet: The Power of Introverts in A World that Cannot Stop Talking)
So, I saw a glimpse of you this morning. Cold bumps ran over my spine and my knees went weak. Tried to pretend I didn’t see you, but did you notice my presence? I kinda wish you did, but also hope you don’t. Don’t know what to say even if you just said, “Hello.”
You look like you used to be, but happier, I guess. It was Monday morning, so I have the mood as blue as the shirt I was wearing. I didn’t look fabulous, the way I hope I’d look when faith meets us once again.
I can’t believe after all these times, you still hold a piece of me that you don’t even realize you do. I can’t believe after all I have been through, I am moving on, but I still can’t let go of you. I can’t believe after everything that’s been said and done, I still fuckin’ care.
Damn.
Waking up late in the morning.
Listening to peaceful songs.
Reading good books while cuddling in bed.
A little sigh away from perfect.
I think your 20s are the hardest part of life. I mean, everyone goes on about how hard it is to be a teenager, but actually I think it’s tougher to be in your 20s because you’re expected to be a grownup and expected to earn your own living and be successful and I think you feel like a kid still.
Another great TEDxTalk!
Two hours of having dinner with friends and being in my outgoing persona left me with headache and spent energy.
Not until I read Quiet by Susan Cain do I realize why I avoid social scenes like a plague. Wedding, birthday parties, get-together, clubbing, etc. You name it, but I will not come if not for social obligations. Being surrounded by people drained me to the core so that I become literally ill at the next day. Neither until then do I realize why I always feel like wearing a mask, even when I am with close friends of mine. I senses that they never see my true self. They don’t even believe it when I show who I am really inside so that probably means I wear this mask extremely well.
So I found the reason why every time I am at home I become grumpy and irritable, especially when family members just do not know when to leave me alone. That when I am home, I really need a down-time and become busy with doing nothing. That at home, I am recharging.
Everything makes sense. I like it when things make sense.
Everyone knows Steve Jobs, but has anyone ever heard about the other Steve who actually invented the first Apple computers? Steve Wozniak co-founded Apple Inc. with Steve Jobs and Ron Wayne. Without Wozniak, Jobs won’t have a product to sell, but without Jobs, Apple products won’t be as successful - Jobs is an amazing salesman but Wozniak is the innovator. iWoz was the brain and iJobs is the mouth. One the brilliant marketer and businessman and the other a visionary and “tech guy”. Great collaboration between an introvert and an extrovert, in my opinion.
Idealisme itu mahal harganya. Pertanyaannya, apakah menjual idealisme membuatmu merasa kaya? – Read on Path.
Clock’s ticking. Pendulum’s swinging, left and right.
My thoughts wandering, passing this dark night.
The thing about myself is that I always overanalyze something. I tend to make decisions slowly but in advance, so once I make them, I will stubbornly refuse to be convinced otherwise.
If I encounter an issue or a problem, I feel the strong need to turn it upside down, muddle over it, eyeing from different points of view, trace back and seek reasons. And more often than not, this process creates so much noise in my head and takes up too many my brain’s RAM that it finally collapses and shuts down.
O Allah The Almighty and Merciful, please give me light and show me a way to troubleshoot this.
ERICA GOLDSON: Graduation speech
Learning doesn’t mean you’re learning. Best at school doesn’t mean that you’re will be best in life.
Sometimes we need to be dumb to see this world more crystal. Sometimes, you’re life is better when you don’t know about a thing. Sometimes life so complicated, but it’s really depends on how we’re gonna face it.cc @oryza25 @hestiyaaa
So eerily true.
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Ini banget!
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Best Line Ever / Quiet people have the Loudest minds… on We Heart It. http://weheartit.com/entry/59170408/via/monkeygirl1
Every personality type has many weak spots and INTJs are not an exception. There is one area where their brilliant mind often becomes completely useless and may even hinder their efforts – INTJs find it very difficult to handle romantic relationships, especially in their earliest stages. People…
I can relate to this lady so hard
Saat kau duduk santai dan menikmati harimu, tiba-tiba kamu terpikirkan ingin berbuat sesuatu kebaikan untuk seseorang..?
Itu adalah Allah…
Yang sedang berbicara denganmu dan mengetuk hatimu…
[QS 4:114 , 2:195 , 28:77]Pernahkah…
Saat kau sedang sedih… kecewa… tetapi tidak…
If I could do anything, be anything, I would want to travel, anywhere and everywhere, and during my travels I would want to experience new things so that I could write stories. I wish to be a writer of books. I want to write books that any one and everyone could relate to. I want to help people find an escape, even if its only for a little while. That is my dream, my wish. If only…
Tourist by Yuna.
This song, a good book, a cup of tea and a rainy day.
Part 3
Part 2
Part 1
me.
Inspiring!
Watching The Babysitters Club on HBO Family. Sweet flashback to childhood memories curling up in bed reading the beloved series! – View on Path.
I NEED to read this:
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain.
Just this afternoon, a friend told me how she was being approached by two guys. She is infatuated with the first guy but unsure of his feeling. In the other hand, the second guy was infatuated with her but she only thinks him as a friend. The second guy expressed his feeling directly and asked to be a couple. She accepted (although in an abstract answer: let’s-get-to-know-each-other-better kind of way) because she was frustrated with the first guy, whom she likes better. She even found the courage to express her feeling to the first guy after the fact!
What she shared befuddled me in many different ways.
Recently I just took part in personality test that uses the Myer-Briggs Type Indicator (yes, I take random tests for leisure) and the result provided me with a profound understanding about why I feel the way I feel and why I react the way I react to situations.
MBTI characterizes people into sixteen personality types by evaluating how people perceive the world and make decisions. The test result placed me into the INTJ type, which stands for Introversion - Intuition -Thinking - Judgment. According to research, INTJ is one of the rarest of the sixteen personality types, and account for about 1–4% of the population.
